Ok I'm 53 and proud of it! Attn: Blues and Whites!

Thank you Tammy for that birthday scripture. Makes me feel better about turning 53! I had a relaxing day, listening to the "Happy Birthday" song from my Grandsons, Nate, Eli, and Sam in Brownsville. Then from my Grandaughters, Ari, and Addy. Beautiful kiddos! You are the best.
My birthday request was to go see Clint Eastwood's new movie "Gran Tourino". It was, in my opinion, Eastwood at his best ever. This is a great movie about a very RED character...Walter...who learns a lot about life and relationships. It was worth wading through the vulgar language to get to the plot and the worthwhile message of the film. Really enjoyed it. I laughed and cheered and cried. Guess he got me. The guy is good!

Now for a little Color Code lesson from a recent training. Thank you to those who attended and the part you all played in making this training so special. Here is just one of several aha moments we had as we shared back and forth about Motive and relationships.

Attention Whites and Blues:
An interesting question came from a “White” wife regarding her “Blue” husband.
“I honestly try to be a good listener. But why does he just go on and on and on? And then, it seems like he gets more angry the longer he goes. What is the problem? What more can I do?
The answer came from across the room, from another “white”. He is in his teens and has that great, white clarity. He said, “Sometimes I have this funny, blank look on my face when my blue Mom is talking to me. I think she goes on and on because she doesn’t think I am getting what she is saying. I am, but apparently I don’t show it, so she just keeps talking.”
“Aha” - moment!!!
When communicating with blues, whites must remind themselves that the subject is usually “feelings”. Because you whites operate from a highly logical perspective, you must stretch on out there to not only connect with the emotion, but demonstrate that you do. Some evidence that you are “getting it” will be helpful to the blue. It may mean nodding your head, or maybe even a warm embrace. Help the blue “feel” understood. It is “air” to them.