When is the mission accomplished?

Blue Tammy has just returned from 4 days in Tulsa with our 16 year old white daughter Stefany attending Fellowship of Christian Cheerleaders. (Now that’s an organization we should all be members of!)
While she was gone, my secondary Red influenced me to get a lot of “stuff” done around the house. I layed bricks on our porch that had succumbed to the winter freeze and broken off. I cut and trimmed all the grass. I trimmed trees. I made the bed…big deal for yellow…cleaned the kitchen…bigger deal for yellow…even did a load of laundry…borders on miracle for yellow man. Tammy and I were both pretty tired and spent when she arrived home about 5:00 o’clock Thursday.
Friday morning while relaxing on the deck she says, “You kinda hurt my feelings yesterday”. “I did?”…How?...please tell me”.
“I started to show you pictures from camp, and tell you all about the wonderful time of connection I had with our daughter and all the girls, and you seemed disinterested”. “It made me feel unimportant”.
Motive Moment…She really did appreciate all the “things” I had done around the house, she did praise me for all my work! But in the end, as a Blue she “needed” to be understood, accepted, and appreciated. She needed some of my undivided attention, listening from my heart, to what she was feeling in her heart.
Reds love you by doing and providing. Blues NEED connection from the heart.
A RED once asked me, “When do you get to the place where a blue feels understood…like mission accomplished”. I replied, “When do you Reds feel like you’ve been respected enough, so the rest of us can feel like mission accomplished?”
Needs and wants are 24-7-365. Creating successful relationships is a journey of a lifetime. An exciting journey, full of wonder.

You may make a Blue feel understood at 9:00 o’clock, but guess what, they will still need to be understood at 9:15. The needs and wants of the rest of the colors work the same way.

We see life different. Good relationships happen when we make life about the other person, speak their language, and serve their needs and wants in love.