A Hand in Glove (Blue married to Yellow) Conflict

One of our favorite times during Motive Training is taking time for participants to share Color Code Moments. Last week we enjoyed a story told by a couple we have grown to love and appreciate. (Names have been changed to protect the innocent...and not so innocent...ha ha.)

Carol is a wonderful BLUE woman with a long term marriage to her great YELLOW guy, Garrett.

Carol came home from work, her arms loaded with groceries that needed to be put away, before she fixed one of those delicious BLUE...quality, well thought out, and well prepared evening meals.

After enjoying dinner together, Garrett got up from the table and headed for his favorite Lazy Boy chair, while Carol cleared off the table and did the dishes. (in all likelihood :)

From his comfortable easy chair, Garrett hollered, "Where are those Cheez-its you bought?"

In "True Blue" fashion, Carol replied with a sense of moral correctness, "We just got up from the table. You don't need to eat those now. They are for a snack".

Yellow, fun loving, Garret replied, "I only ate one Sloppy Joe, so I could eat THEM! Where are they? I saw them when you unpacked them from the groceries."

"Garrett, those are for when I'm working and can't be here to cook for you. You can eat them...THEN!"

"I don't want to hear it"!!! (Garretts' response)

Silence ruled the remainder of the night...and all the next day...until Garrett shared this story with everyone at Motive Matters class that evening.

The rest of us in the room were laughing hysterically at an interpersonal conflict that didn't "feel" that funny at the time it was taking place in Carol and Garrett's home.

One of the great blessings of training Color Code and Motive is when couples begin to "get themselves", and are able to laugh at themselves. We are all rather funny when our "automatics" show themselves during everyday life.

As you know, I am a YELLOW married to a BLUE. I was laughing the most enthusiastically because I could SSOOOO identify with what had happened. BLUES often feel like they are called to teach the rest of us the "right"..."responsible"..."and most appropriate" manner in which life SHOULD be lived. Yellows just enjoy life in the moment. For a BLUE, it is just NOT appropriate...necessary...or healthy, to eat a snack after a good dinner. Blue Carol was probably feeling guilty that her homemade Sloppy Joes were, somehow, not good enough to satisfy her beloved's hunger. For a YELLOW, its just the thought of how gooood Cheez-its taste!!! As a matter of fact...now that I think about it....I'm gonna stop typing this blog, jump in my car and run down to Fastrip to get myself a pack of Cheez-its! Right now!!! :)

Do your work. Love well. Love you all. Thanks for sharing K & G! :)